3. When silence doesn’t mean agreement
Bruna’s argument about misreading behaviour takes us into our final story. Even when we understand more about how people respond to uncertainty there is another reason why we can get behaviour wrong: we interpret it through our own cultural expectations.
Dr Catherine Hua Xiang is particularly well placed to explore this. She is an applied linguist specialising in intercultural communication between China and the West, programme director for the BSc International Relations & Chinese at the London School of Economics and UK director of the Confucius Institute for Business London. Her latest book, Harmony in Differences, looks specifically at politeness and intercultural communication with China.
The finding: Respect sounds like a value everyone should understand but Catherine shows why that assumption can cause problems. In many British workplaces we associate openness with speaking up and are comfortable with the idea that a committed employee might challenge a senior leader directly. Chinese perspectives can place greater weight on role, relational history and preserving dignity when deciding how disagreement should be handled.
Catherine is careful not to turn this into a simple West versus China comparison. Chinese workplaces vary considerably and younger employees are changing some established expectations. She suggests using cultural patterns as lenses that help us question our assumptions rather than labels applied to individuals.
Why it matters: Her point about silence is particularly useful. Someone may disagree with a decision but decide that openly challenging their manager is the wrong way to handle it, especially where hierarchy and preserving face carry more weight. If leaders assume speaking up always looks like public challenge they can easily mistake quietness for agreement.
That has implications for many of the employee voice practices organisations now use. Asking for views in a large meeting may work well for some people while another colleague may give you a far more honest answer privately or in writing.
What’s really going on: Organisations often write values such as respect and openness as though everybody shares the same understanding of how they should look in practice. Catherine’s article shows how much interpretation sits underneath those words.
This does not mean abandoning shared expectations or accepting ambiguity where safety, discrimination or misconduct are concerned. It does mean being more curious about the ways people show disagreement and respect, particularly in global teams where one group’s idea of healthy candour may feel very different to somebody else's.
The leadership question: When you say you value respect, openness or employee voice, how much of what you expect to see has been defined through your own cultural lens?
👉 Read Dr Catherine Hua Xiang’s full piece on what Chinese workplaces can teach us about respect, hierarchy and employee voice, What Chinese workplaces reveal about the hidden rules of respect at work 5-minute read
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Siân
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